To Avoid Grief is to Avoid Love:
Learn how you can heal by embracing your pain.
There are pathways available to us that open up as we experience true healing.
But seeing these pathways requires that we learn how to embrace our unworthiness, loss, doubt, and pain. In fact, this is a critical component of everything I teach and share.
Recently, I was blessed to witness some amazing healing moments through a TOSA Healing Journey (monthly online breathwork, inquiry, and coaching sessions) I lead, as I found myself in the position of teacher and student simultaneously. I felt called to share some of these moments with you here as well as some of what I received from having facilitated them.
In one session, there was a woman who had a truly moving experience.
In her share, she started by apologizing to everyone as she didn’t want to offend anyone with her account (bless her soul) of the session. Specifically, she spoke about her visions and experience of synchronicity as a result of the session having taken place on the Easter weekend. Being Christian, she spoke of the suffering of Christ on the cross, and the conversation centred around the notion of how our own individual suffering can actually help us to return home—to know God intimately, whatever that might mean for each of us. This was a beautiful and visceral encounter that was felt by everyone as she shared.
I must say that when we open to complete, embodied knowledge of the Truth, it both transcends religion and encompasses all religion because at the heart of truth… is TRUTH.
Another lady had recently experienced the loss of a companion and came out of the session sharing her realization that to avoid grief is to avoid love.
What a powerful, amazing recognition!
What we resist, persists; what we fight, fights back. In the space that was held for her, she was able to step toward her pain and to truly be with her grief. As a result, she opened to a greater experience of love for the companion she lost as well as love for herself.
Sometimes we think that holding on to our pain is a way to hang on to what we lost. Instead, by letting go and embracing it, we’re left with the true love that was there in the centre the entire time.
Another beautiful moment was when a gentleman who was newer to breathwork shared his experience of having his hands cramp during the session (known as tetany).
At first, he felt worried. But because he had genuinely listened to me and the guidance I had offered in the session, he was able to turn inwards towards what most of us would deem “discomfort.” He allowed himself to truly be present with the experience of cramping (as well as the worry around it) with awareness and acceptance; he simply noticed it with deep presence. As he did, it transformed of its own accord. By simply embracing his experience, he actually felt the build-up of energy release.
Nothing is what it seems.
Energy never dies but it can be transformed. What can seem “dark” to us can be transformed into “light” because, in reality, there is no dark or light. It is all simply what it IS. And it’s there for us; whatever comes up is an opportunity to be utilized for our healing and evolution.
Finally, the following “receiving” comes back to the catalyst for this impromptu Easter weekend TOSA Healing Journey.
I have a student who went through the most beautiful experience in the second to last of my recent Become Unapologetically YOU course, just prior to this weekend: she was able to see through the narrative she had long-held surrounding a feeling and belief that she wasn’t worthy of love. What happened in that session was nothing short of miraculous…
…as she went deeper and deeper into experiencing her unworthiness, she experienced this incredibly visceral feeling of being loved unconditionally.
This was not some intellectual concept or notion. Not at all. This beautiful woman experienced an immense and inherent love at a cellular level. She was actually sort of speechless in that session (and it was, in large part, why I decided to offer the Easter weekend breathwork session)!
Coming off that experience, she came to this session having learned more tools to truly be with herself. Again, she experienced a return to self-love, compassion and hope.
We aren’t born feeling unworthy of love. That sense of unworthiness is built up over time. But when we learn the right tools and have the right support, we can find our way back to the centre of our beingness, transcend the limited aspects of ourselves and know like you know like you know that…
…YOU ARE ENOUGH.
If you would like to experience the power of transcendent meditation and embodied feeling, coupled with the breath and profound inquiry as you’re held in a safe space to elicit a deep, transformative healing, I would love for you to join my next Become Unapologetically YOU course. You can find out more HERE.
